The Anniversary of a Diagnosis

A year ago, I received a diagnosis, a slap in the face, a validation. No mother wants to admit she feels a slight twinge of relief at hearing something is “wrong” with her child. But I did.  A small, small part of me thought, So it’s not me.  I’m not a horrible mother.  I haveContinue reading “The Anniversary of a Diagnosis”

What my Special-needs Son CAN Do

ASD: Autism Spectrum Disorder   SPD: Sensory-processing Disorder Many with ASD also have SPD.  Welcome to the land of acronyms. My four year-old son was diagnosed with ASD last February.  If you’re a parent of a child labeled with special needs, then you know what it’s like to agonize over what your child can’t do.Continue reading “What my Special-needs Son CAN Do”

“Body Calm, Mommy!”

This picture look familiar to anyone?  It was brand-new to me until last spring when my now four year-old son (Big C) received the diagnosis of ASD and the floodgates opened.  Suddenly, I was inundated with cue cards and visuals designed to help us as parents “manage” our son. I’m learning very quickly that parentsContinue reading ““Body Calm, Mommy!””

“Wanna smell my feet?”

This question is asked daily of me by my four year-old son diagnosed with autism.  Call it hypersensitive.  Call it hyper-curious.  Call it what you will.  He is obsessed with his sense of smell. His favorite question is not “why?” but rather, “Can I smell?” He’s no smelling snob.  He wants to smell it all:Continue reading ““Wanna smell my feet?””

A Mother Divided

Most working moms have apprehension and anxiety over sending their children to daycare.  Fortunately, for most, they will eventually discover daycare isn’t so bad and that their children thrive in the environment. Most moms ain’t me. I dread daycare. It terrifies me.  All of those feelings of apprehension and anxiety are completely founded on my part.Continue reading “A Mother Divided”

Why NOT throwing your child a birthday party is okay

Bounce houses, rambunctious party games, sugary candy, caffeinated soda, cheap party favors, food left out on banquet tables for children to grab, spill, and lick, large pinatas inevitably leading to kids blindfolded with bats… If these images send chills down your spine, you’re like me and, likely, you have a kid like mine who getsContinue reading “Why NOT throwing your child a birthday party is okay”

“Oh, he’s just stimming.”

Stimming: Everybody’s doin’ it. Even you. I have a confession.  I stim.  Every night.  It calms me. Before I go to bed, I count off on my fingers how many hours of sleep I will get.  Sometimes, I have to count half a dozen times just to get that sense of peace. Sound odd?  Maybe a little.Continue reading ““Oh, he’s just stimming.””

“I do not like that hat. Good-bye!”

Autism: “self + -ism”  (from the Greek prefix, auto = self) Autism is….complicated. I’ve been learning a lot of new words since the advent of my son’s diagnosis of ASD.  One of them is scripting.  As a teacher of the arts, I immediately liked the sound of this new vocab term.  It sounds so theatrical!  Essentially,Continue reading ““I do not like that hat. Good-bye!””

Overdosing on Therapy (the real cost behind it)

  It’s been just over a week now since we parted ways with our in-home ABA therapists. I feel like I can breathe again. I have my family back.  I didn’t realize just how toxic the situation had gotten until my husband said the other day, “Do you realize how much calmer you are now?Continue reading “Overdosing on Therapy (the real cost behind it)”

Autism and Circle Time Success

  Recently, my posts have had a dark-humored tone, giving my friends “expecting” bone-chilling nightmares.  Today’s post is a bit more upbeat and a blissful reminder that perseverance, intuitiveness, and a deep respect for a child’s emotions can earn you a fast-track ticket on the Mommy Success Express. A little over a year ago, when BigContinue reading “Autism and Circle Time Success”